Why This Blog? 

Okay, so I put my heart and soul into getting you what you need in The Couples Communication Handbook to succeed as a couple in your communication efforts. Do I really need to write more?

Oh ho ho, let me tell you, my friend. I could have written a lot more. I had to do a good bit of trimming to get that book down to a reasonable size! So yes, you’ll get some more goodies here on this blog, stuff I couldn’t fit in there, more real-life stories, and other useful tips and tools.

Plus, I’ll answer questions that people send me here, including real-time issues you’re facing, challenges you’ve had trying out the skills in the book, even (eep!) any mistakes or deficiencies you find in the book.

(Don’t worry, any stories you read about, whether in the book or the blog, are either composites of multiple clients or significantly changed in the details so that nobody can be recognized in them.) (If you think you recognize someone, you are incorrect. Trust me.)

Answer #1: You’ll get more juicy info on the blog.

Keeping the Ball in the Air

Another very handy feature of this blog is that if you follow it and read the posts from time to time, you’ll reap the benefit of keeping your marriage top of mind.

As we noted in the last post, marriage takes work. This is true for me, it’s true for you, it would be true for the Pope if he was the marrying type. We all need to keep the ball in the air or it’s going to hit the ground at some point.

If nothing else, getting semi-regular reminders to keep working on this stuff will help you remember this point. Life is so busy. Trust me, I get it. Work, kids, family, friends, doctor’s appointments, house repairs, taking the dog to the vet, whatever else you’ve got going on – it can be overwhelming. How can you find time to work on your marriage as well?

The truth is that if a chunk of your time gets taken up by arguments with your spouse, by parenting miscommunications, or by other tactical fails at home, working on the marriage may end up saving you time as those things begin to go more smoothly.

But even if they don’t, I can guarantee you that a happy, connected marriage will be worth the time. Living with the love and security that that kind of marriage brings is a massive boost. A life saver. Even if the roof is leaking and the dog needs a checkup and your parents are driving you crazy, the sense of confidence, of connection, of well-being in your life will be well worth it.

Answer #2: We all need to keep our marital efforts top of mind.

Save the World – One Relationship at a Time

The last point I want to make about this blog is partially self-serving. This is a good way to get the book out there.

Maybe I’ll write a post you’ll like and send to your friend across the country. Maybe Google will start showing it in search results. Maybe AI will eat it and learn useful things it can provide as future answers.

Of course, I want to sell more books. But the truth is, I didn’t write The Couples Communication Handbook to be a moneymaker. (I won’t complain if it turns out to be one though.) I wrote it to help people like you get what you want out of your marriage.

Relationships are hard. Communication is hard. I’ve seen so much hurt and sadness out there, in my professional like and in my personal life as well.

I’d like to make a difference in the world. I think I have something of value here. I hope you’ll check out the book, and, if you agree, maybe tell a buddy or two. Let’s get the word out together and make the world a better place. K?

Answer #3: Make the world a better place. 👍🏻